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Concrete Strategies For Reducing Judgment To Improve Your Life

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Think back to the last time you cast judgment on another. Maybe it was against your spouse, friend, coworker, boss, or even a stranger on the street. Did you then go to someone else and justify that judgment? How did you feel after doing so? At peace? Likely not. 

Despite our assumptions, peace of mind is never the byproduct of judgment. I know because I’ve learned that lesson the hard way in my corporate career. I realized that my judgment against my company’s decisions was keeping me from getting what I wanted. It wasn’t my company’s fault at all, but my own. Oh boy, was that freeing. Once I wiped out my judgment, I immediately became happier in my role and made the advancements that I had been working towards. 

When we judge others, we are killing our connection to them. It leads to feelings of resentment, confusion, and guilt. It is an act that can destroy a relationship in the blink of an eye, and half of the time we don’t even know that we’re doing it. The truth is, being nonjudgmental is tough. It is something that requires self-awareness and practice. Understanding what judgment is REALLY about will help us to transform it and release it. Only then can we really thrive in our relationships and step into the role of the bold fulfilled leaders we’re meant to be. 

My call to you is not to completely eliminate judgment altogether, but to simply notice when it’s happening and reduce the amount of time we sit in it. Do that, and I guarantee your performance will increase and your impact will amplify.

In this episode I share:

  • How to know when you’re in a judgment zone 
  • The REAL reason that we judge others
  • Thoughtful ways to release your judgments before it causes harm
  • The exact steps to take if you are being judgmental 
  • Why we must be aware of our intentions
  • The crucial difference between judgment and discernment

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About Rita Hyland

With over 20 years of experience as an executive and leadership coach, Rita helps leaders — emerging and established — excel in corporate and entrepreneurial environments.

Rita believes if leaders were more clear about how transformation really works and more intentional about creating what they want, their impact, success, and influence in the world would be unstoppable.

Through her coaching programs, private coaching, and masterminds, Rita shows leaders how to win consistently and create the impact and legacy they desire.

Central to Rita’s work is the understanding that you will never outperform your current programming, no matter how strong your willpower.

When you learn to use Rita’s proprietary Neuroleadership Growth Code, a technology which uses the best of neuroscience and transformational psychology to hit the brain’s buttons for change, YOU become both the solution and the strategy.

Her mission is to end talented, hard-working, and self-aware leaders spending another day stuck in self-doubt or confusion and not contributing their brilliant work and talent the world so desperately needs.

Learning to Flow

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I’ve been thinking lately about how ingrained our culture is to focus solely on outcomes.

Too often we expect to produce fruits without caring for the roots.

Years ago I recall attending an event where the speaker opened the three-day training talking about the seasons being a metaphor for life. Specifically, I recall him giving a lot of attention to our metaphorical Winter being a time for stillness and rest.

I still remember the visceral reaction I had to this discussion. I was annoyed!

I hadn’t attended the event to hear how I should be still and rest during my proverbial Winter. I was there to learn how I could be in a state of perpetual production.

If there was any season I wanted to learn about it was how to work harder in Summer so I could produce and harvest non-stop in Fall… and Winter… and Spring.

I had just had my third child. He was only three months old at the time. My thoughts based on the models I’d observed were that the only way I could run my business, meet with clients, raise a family and maintain a healthy marriage was to be in a state of perpetual production.

In hindsight, I didn’t want to learn to flow with the seasons. I wanted to know how I could defy them.

I don’t need to tell you what happens when you continue to plant the same crop over and over again without ever giving it a break. The crop suffers as the soil is depleted. Eventually, there is no harvest.

Not long after that event, I recall my body taking on an intense infection. I remember laying on the floor next to my infant son. My body was so fatigued and depleted that it couldn’t produce food for him or anything else for that matter.

I was stunned, but I shouldn’t have been. It wasn’t the first time I’d overextended myself and not appreciated a more balanced rhythm.

Fast forward over twelve years later… I respect the seasons.

I’m completely clear on the fact that we are not meant to be in perpetual production. No matter how much our ego and domesticated self says we can. Even if we believe we’re the exception to the rule.

Looking back, I realize now I’ve made mistakes in how hard I pushed myself and others. I’m certain I unknowingly missed moments with my kids and family along the way as a result.

What I know deep down is that a well-lived life is no longer measured by a stack of achievements but a stack of presence-filled moments.

As my first child departs for college next month, I am respecting the season I’m in and am setting an intention to experience the moments until then with:

  • More connection instead of direction
  • More calm energy instead of tense energy
  • More creativity instead of routine
  • More trust and less fear
  • More happiness focus than success focus​
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I’ve learned that when we listen and give our brains, bodies, and spirits a break, it not only allows the systems to replenish but also allows our subconscious to work on creating something new.

If you have been pushing for an extended period, I invite you to challenge culture’s approach to always be producing and take time to cultivate — and maybe even restore — those things that are the source of your success and happiness.

Enjoy your season!

All my best,

~Rita

Mastering The Art Of Connection

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The single most important skill that you will ever need is not one that is explicitly taught to you, yet it’s ranked #1 in determining how long you will live along with being responsible for your happiness in your personal and work life. The ability I am referring to is connection. To be clear, I’m not talking about a connection that you make on LinkedIn, Facebook, or Twitter from behind a computer screen or iPhone. I define connection as a trusting, authentic, meaningful interaction that gives energy to another person.

So, why does it matter so much? Simply think about the most defining moments and important relationships in your life. These things all happened because of a deeper connection with another person. Connection makes people feel seen, heard, and felt. That’s something all of us want. In order to experience these relationships, we need to give as much as we take. Today I’m taking you on a journey where you will learn how to take your connection factor to the next level and make a bigger impact in return.

In this episode I share:

  • The data and research-proven benefits of connection 
  • My 4 observations of connection based on personal experience and science
  • Ideas to deepen your connection with ease
  • How to eliminate the barriers to connection

Join the waitlist for the Bold Leader Life School here. You’ll receive first access to details when they are released!

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About Rita Hyland

With over 20 years of experience as an executive and leadership coach, Rita helps leaders — emerging and established — excel in corporate and entrepreneurial environments.

Rita believes if leaders were more clear about how transformation really works and more intentional about creating what they want, their impact, success, and influence in the world would be unstoppable.

Through her coaching programs, private coaching, and masterminds, Rita shows leaders how to win consistently and create the impact and legacy they desire.

Central to Rita’s work is the understanding that you will never outperform your current programming, no matter how strong your willpower.

When you learn to use Rita’s proprietary Neuroleadership Growth Code, a technology which uses the best of neuroscience and transformational psychology to hit the brain’s buttons for change, YOU become both the solution and the strategy.

Her mission is to end talented, hard-working, and self-aware leaders spending another day stuck in self-doubt or confusion and not contributing their brilliant work and talent the world so desperately needs.

Re-Entering Your Old World Without Sacrificing Your Pace

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It’s finally happening. We are beginning to see the world reopen little by little. While this highly anticipated change is exciting, if you are like many you may also feel some anxiety building as you begin to go back to old routines. Whether it’s returning to long hours at the office, sitting frustrated in traffic during your commute, or traveling to sports and activities for your children – busyness is on its way back my friends. But what if you don’t want it to be? 

If you have incorporated new habits into your daily routine and found a slower pace over the last 15 months and a better work life balance, you don’t have to give that all up. Each of us can choose the pace in which we want to work and live. It’s time to take responsibility for designing the life we want and leading others to do the same. Let’s do away with the habits of the hurried hustler and instead spend our days with a greater ease, while also being productive and doing our most important work. Embrace this moment as an opportunity for a definitive new beginning. Are you with me?

In this episode I share:

  • The premise of boiling frog syndrome and how it relates to our current circumstances
  • Five ideas on how you can return to the world you once knew at a pace of your choosing
  • How to start the conversation about pace and work life balance with others in your life 
  • An invitation to hold onto what works for you while also making room for the new
  • Being a leader who drives change so you are not driven in the wrong direction
  • An announcement on how I am slowing down this summer to make space in my life

Join the waitlist for the Bold Leader Life School here. You’ll receive first access to details when they are released!

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About Rita Hyland

With over 20 years of experience as an executive and leadership coach, Rita helps leaders — emerging and established — excel in corporate and entrepreneurial environments.

Rita believes if leaders were more clear about how transformation really works and more intentional about creating what they want, their impact, success, and influence in the world would be unstoppable.

Through her coaching programs, private coaching, and masterminds, Rita shows leaders how to win consistently and create the impact and legacy they desire.

Central to Rita’s work is the understanding that you will never outperform your current programming, no matter how strong your willpower.

When you learn to use Rita’s proprietary Neuroleadership Growth Code, a technology which uses the best of neuroscience and transformational psychology to hit the brain’s buttons for change, YOU become both the solution and the strategy.

Her mission is to end talented, hard-working, and self-aware leaders spending another day stuck in self-doubt or confusion and not contributing their brilliant work and talent the world so desperately needs.

The 4-Step Problem Solving Framework

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There is one massive area in which I see even the most successful leaders fall short. It is a skill that we will always need no matter what line of work we’re in. The skill I am referring to is problem solving. How we approach solving problems is key in determining our reality both at work and home. Mastering problem solving is so important, yet most of us are doing it all wrong. When setting out to face a challenge, the majority of people are addressing a problem that isn’t actually the problem at all. 

It is time to end the traditional ways we have been taught to solve a problem. The process begins with having the ability to accurately identify the problem and get to the root of the matter – the nitty gritty. It requires you to challenge your assumptions, rethink stories you tell yourself, and come to a clear resolution. Learning how to do this will allow you to put an end to any draining situations you previously thought were a struggle or impossible to solve.

In this episode I share:

  • My four-part problem solving framework that will help you take on any challenge you are facing
  • An easy way you can revisit roadblocks from a different perspective
  • A life-changing secret that will make a significant impact in how you view your external circumstances
  • The power of identifying the stories you tell yourself 
  • Why you must begin to distinguish facts from assumptions

Join the waitlist for the Bold Leader Life School here. You’ll receive first access to details when they are released!

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About Rita Hyland

With over 20 years of experience as an executive and leadership coach, Rita helps leaders — emerging and established — excel in corporate and entrepreneurial environments.

Rita believes if leaders were more clear about how transformation really works and more intentional about creating what they want, their impact, success, and influence in the world would be unstoppable.

Through her coaching programs, private coaching, and masterminds, Rita shows leaders how to win consistently and create the impact and legacy they desire.

Central to Rita’s work is the understanding that you will never outperform your current programming, no matter how strong your willpower.

When you learn to use Rita’s proprietary Neuroleadership Growth Code, a technology which uses the best of neuroscience and transformational psychology to hit the brain’s buttons for change, YOU become both the solution and the strategy.

Her mission is to end talented, hard-working, and self-aware leaders spending another day stuck in self-doubt or confusion and not contributing their brilliant work and talent the world so desperately needs.

Change Your Relationship With Time And Break Free Of The Pressured Pace

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Do you know what’s overrated? Busyness. If it was a good thing then it wouldn’t lead to burnout, anxiety, and overwhelm. Despite what society may tell us, busyness does not make us greater or more important than the next person. (There are a lot of important people who are not busy to show us this isn’t true.) Nevertheless, we unwittingly design our days with a rush to get more done as opposed to getting done what matters. And we continue to seek to do more even when we are already overextended.

Our first mistake is that we tend to blame our busyness on poor time management or not having enough hours in the day, when in reality that’s not the problem at all. The problem has to do with our identity not being a match to the role we are in. So how do we expand our identity and stop blaming our lack of time? This episode will give you practical, actionable tools  to eliminate the feeling of a constant pressured pace immediately and increase your productivity and  peace of mind. 

In this episode I share:

  • The misinformation our culture promotes about busyness 
  • 4 essential steps to reclaim your time and be more present, productive and peaceful
  • How to make the shift from a time-scarcity relationship to a time-abundant relationship and have more than enough time for anything you want
  • My go-to mantra when I feel rushed that immediately releases the pressure

Join the waitlist for the Bold Leader Life School here. You’ll receive first access to details when they are released!

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About Rita Hyland

With over 20 years of experience as an executive and leadership coach, Rita helps leaders — emerging and established — excel in corporate and entrepreneurial environments.

Rita believes if leaders were more clear about how transformation really works and more intentional about creating what they want, their impact, success, and influence in the world would be unstoppable.

Through her coaching programs, private coaching, and masterminds, Rita shows leaders how to win consistently and create the impact and legacy they desire.

Central to Rita’s work is the understanding that you will never outperform your current programming, no matter how strong your willpower.

When you learn to use Rita’s proprietary Neuroleadership Growth Code, a technology which uses the best of neuroscience and transformational psychology to hit the brain’s buttons for change, YOU become both the solution and the strategy.

Her mission is to end talented, hard-working, and self-aware leaders spending another day stuck in self-doubt or confusion and not contributing their brilliant work and talent the world so desperately needs.

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The Post-Pandemic Summer of Healing and Alignment

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You have checked all the boxes in life. You’ve worked hard to get a solid education, you secured the high-paying corporate work, and you have put the time and work in to provide for your family. Everything is going as planned. You know you are blessed. Yet, you still don’t feel truly happy and fulfilled. Something is off, and you begin to question it all. You’re starting to realize that the traditional view of success doesn’t always equal happiness. It’s confusing to say the least. So what gives?

This past year, and beyond, has taken a toll on everyone. For many people, it has left them reflecting on their life and where their current trajectory is taking them.  As we begin to transition out of this pandemic, healing is in our future. If you’re feeling off path, now is the time to get to the root of the problem. Today I’m sharing the foundation you need in order to be able to do the work that gives to yourself and others – the work that really lights you up. This conversation will help you to take the steps towards straightening out what is not aligned.

In this episode I share:

  • My perspective on getting aligned with yourself and why it’s so important to do so
  • A simple technique to get back on track if you’re feeling a bit lost or unsatisfied
  • How you can allow yourself to live a life that is truly guided by your own design
  • A reminder to slow down when something isn’t working rather than push harder 
  • The specific moment in my life when I stopped to consider why I was working so hard to achieve something that I didn’t want

Join the waitlist for the Bold Leader Life School here. You’ll receive first access to details when they are released!

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About Rita Hyland

With over 20 years of experience as an executive and leadership coach, Rita helps leaders — emerging and established — excel in corporate and entrepreneurial environments.

Rita believes if leaders were more clear about how transformation really works and more intentional about creating what they want, their impact, success, and influence in the world would be unstoppable.

Through her coaching programs, private coaching, and masterminds, Rita shows leaders how to win consistently and create the impact and legacy they desire.

Central to Rita’s work is the understanding that you will never outperform your current programming, no matter how strong your willpower.

When you learn to use Rita’s proprietary Neuroleadership Growth Code, a technology which uses the best of neuroscience and transformational psychology to hit the brain’s buttons for change, YOU become both the solution and the strategy.

Her mission is to end talented, hard-working, and self-aware leaders spending another day stuck in self-doubt or confusion and not contributing their brilliant work and talent the world so desperately needs.

The Six Habits Of The Fulfilled Bold Leader

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We all want to be great at what we do. We want to lead successful and fulfilling lives without the hustle and pressure that comes with it. So what’s the secret? For us to experience the outcomes and results we desire, it takes more than mindset. It takes consistent action. Not massive action as some of the experts will tell you, but small actions done daily. It’s all about our habits. Consistently practicing life-changing habits is the secret sauce used by the most accomplished and balanced leaders.

Today I am sharing the six habits that I recommend you have in play if you want to build work worth creating and a life guided by your own design — day in and day out. These habits will inspire confidence and action in everything you do. They are backed by science and proven to help you bypass overwhelm and other limitations in the areas of work that have held you back in the past. As you listen, remember to start small. When you invest in small changes the compound effect is exponential growth.  Try it. You will be amazed at the results that follow. You’ve got this!

Download your FREE Fulfilled Bold Leader Habits Checklist here.

In this episode I share:

  • When habits matter more than mindset
  • Qualities of a solid written vision and how to use it 
  • The four essential parts of my daily silence ritual 
  • How and when to schedule your habits that are proven by science
  • What those who consistently build great work worth creating do that others do not 
  • The importance of intentionally expanding yourself throughout the course of your life

Join the waitlist for the Bold Leader Life School here. You’ll receive first access to details when they are released!

Six habits of the fulfilled bold leader are:

  1. Be the first to rise and exercise 
  2. Schedule silence and self-reflection into your every day
  3. Block schedule your week
  4. Program your brain for your vision
  5. Educate yourself daily 
  6. Give generously. Ask yourself the question, what does my audience, my client, and my team need from me today? 

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About Rita Hyland

With over 20 years of experience as an executive and leadership coach, Rita helps leaders — emerging and established — excel in corporate and entrepreneurial environments.

Rita believes if leaders were more clear about how transformation really works and more intentional about creating what they want, their impact, success, and influence in the world would be unstoppable.

Through her coaching programs, private coaching, and masterminds, Rita shows leaders how to win consistently and create the impact and legacy they desire.

Central to Rita’s work is the understanding that you will never outperform your current programming, no matter how strong your willpower.

When you learn to use Rita’s proprietary Neuroleadership Growth Code, a technology which uses the best of neuroscience and transformational psychology to hit the brain’s buttons for change, YOU become both the solution and the strategy.

Her mission is to end talented, hard-working, and self-aware leaders spending another day stuck in self-doubt or confusion and not contributing their brilliant work and talent the world so desperately needs.

Redefining How We Measure Accomplishment For Your Ultimate Life

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We are all the busiest people we know. Between work and being plugged into our computers and phones 24/7, it’s go, go, go all day long with no end in sight. We are a doing-obsessed society. Our programming runs deep. As a result, we often don’t ask the right questions and we begin to live passively. While the hustle may look like success on the outside, are we actually accomplishing what we will measure our life on?

When it is all said and done, what is the life that you are intentionally working to create? Perhaps the more important question is, how will you measure it?  The time has come to rethink how we measure our success so that our days reflect the long-term picture we work so hard for.

In this episode I share:

  • The momentous shifts that occur when we redefine a successful life guided by our own design and metrics
  • How to expand your relationship with time from “I have a lack of time” to “I have all the time I need”
  • The top questions to ask yourself to determine how you want to measure your life 
  • A reminder of where our greatest joys come from so that you keep them front and center and allocate your resources accordingly.  

Join the waitlist for the Bold Leader Life School here. You’ll receive first access to details when they are released!

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About Rita Hyland

With over 20 years of experience as an executive and leadership coach, Rita helps leaders — emerging and established — excel in corporate and entrepreneurial environments.

Rita believes if leaders were more clear about how transformation really works and more intentional about creating what they want, their impact, success, and influence in the world would be unstoppable.

Through her coaching programs, private coaching, and masterminds, Rita shows leaders how to win consistently and create the impact and legacy they desire.

Central to Rita’s work is the understanding that you will never outperform your current programming, no matter how strong your willpower.

When you learn to use Rita’s proprietary Neuroleadership Growth Code, a technology which uses the best of neuroscience and transformational psychology to hit the brain’s buttons for change, YOU become both the solution and the strategy.

Her mission is to end talented, hard-working, and self-aware leaders spending another day stuck in self-doubt or confusion and not contributing their brilliant work and talent the world so desperately needs.

Shorten the Lag Time Between Discouragement and Getting Back to Your A-Game

Shorten The Lag Time Between Discouragement And Getting Back To Your A-Game

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Shorten the Lag Time Between Discouragement and Getting Back to Your A-Game

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If you have a heartbeat, you will experience pain and hurt at some point in your life. It’s inevitable. It’s not if you face struggle, but what you do with that pain when it shows up that matters. Will you let it stop you or drive you? This is where your resiliency comes into play. Understanding how to exercise our resiliency muscle is such an important and underrated skill, and yet it is one not taught in schools.

In order to fulfill our purpose in life, we must learn to get through those challenging moments without letting them define us. The first step is acknowledging that we are going through a hardship and allow ourselves to feel it rather than diminishing it. Today I’m going to show you the next steps that follow so you can decrease the lag time between experiencing the struggle and getting back to your A-game. Let’s remember that we are not in control of what happens tomorrow but we can keep discouragement from killing another day, no matter what kind of curveball is thrown our way.

In this episode I share:

  • The #1 mistake most people make when they face hardship at work or life
  • THE question that ensures that YOU–not your hurt– is in the driver’s seat 
  • The ultimate 5- step resilience strategy to overcome adversity every time
  • How to figure out precisely what your next right action

Join the waitlist for the Bold Leader Life School here. You’ll receive first access to details when they are released!

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About Rita Hyland

With over 20 years of experience as an executive and leadership coach, Rita helps leaders — emerging and established — excel in corporate and entrepreneurial environments.

Rita believes if leaders were more clear about how transformation really works and more intentional about creating what they want, their impact, success, and influence in the world would be unstoppable.

Through her coaching programs, private coaching, and masterminds, Rita shows leaders how to win consistently and create the impact and legacy they desire.

Central to Rita’s work is the understanding that you will never outperform your current programming, no matter how strong your willpower.

When you learn to use Rita’s proprietary Neuroleadership Growth Code, a technology which uses the best of neuroscience and transformational psychology to hit the brain’s buttons for change, YOU become both the solution and the strategy.

Her mission is to end talented, hard-working, and self-aware leaders spending another day stuck in self-doubt or confusion and not contributing their brilliant work and talent the world so desperately needs.

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