Get Your Great Goal Down

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Listen to the full podcast episode to learn what to focus on as the year takes off so that you can do your most satisfying work and set yourself up for the life you really want.

It’s 2023, can you believe it? The new year is here and it’s going to be a fabulous one!

I know this for certain because you have never been more experienced, wiser, and ready for what’s to come. This year is filled with an abundance of potential, and it’s the perfect opportunity for you to take advantage of the fresh slate that the new year brings.

This is your year to get your best and most satisfying work of your career out into the world and enjoy a vibrant life with the freedom to do whatever else it is you want.

However, what I see happen all too as the year progresses, among fast-paced, high-contributors like yourself,  those who are serious about growing themselves and making a real difference in their businesses and at home is that they get caught back up in the fast-paced work environment and personal lives that they lead. 

Unfortunately, this can lead to distraction and frustration, and it’s at this point that many people make one killer mistake: they begin to think that their vision isn’t that important.

But let me tell you, it is! Like an airplane needs a runway to take off, you need your vision to take off too.  As I experienced on an airplane recently, without an assigned runway,  we simply remain stuck on the tarmac. 

Without a clear vision, you’ll find yourself floating through life day-to-day, keeping yourself busy and eventually realizing you have nothing to show for all the time that’s passed you by. Maybe this feels a bit familiar to you. Maybe you’ve started your vision and you had the best intentions for it, but you’ve become distracted from it. You begin to say, “I’ll do it later.” Maybe you’re no longer lit up by the vision you’ve set out for yourself.

Friend, I want you to know that you are not alone and you are not behind. You are right on time. Each one of us has felt this in some way, so today I am going to get you back on the direct flight pattern to guarantee that you can get your vision down so you can  get started immediately. 

I want you to have the freedom to focus on planning your dream vacation to Italy  you want and to work on your business without wondering what you’re missing or second-guessing if you are doing enough.  

Let’s start by covering the biggest reason that we miss creating a vision and great goals each year and how to resolve it.  

The big mistake we make when it comes to goals is that we make our goals mean something they do not.

The first way we do this is by attaching our own personal value, worth, or adequacy to the goal.  We believe that if we hit the goal it means we’re good enough.  If we don’t, it validates our inadequacy.  

The second interpretation we put on goals is that we believe that the bigger the goal, the bigger its meaning.  If we shoot a basket in our backyard and miss, no big deal.  But when we take the same shot at the United Center, we make it mean something entirely different.  Or if we say we want to build 100 widgets instead of 10 widgets, that extra zero means so much more. 

The meanings we give our goals riddle us with stress which then contracts our ability to deploy our talents and ingenuity.  A lot of times the meanings keep us from even setting our goals. 

What we can do to resolve this is to first understand that goals are neutral. They are directions to guide us to our next action. Nothing more.

The meanings you give or don’t give to your goals change everything. When you view your goals as neutral, you will feel a sense of relief that will lead you to taking focused and deliberate action. 

Remember that our goals are not designed to assess us or our worth. Our goals are designed to guide us, to give us direction. Be aware of when you are leaning towards creating a goal that you think is going to validate you in some way. 

Once you change your mindset around goals, you are ready to clarify and declare them. I’m here to help you get that done.

  1. Begin by answering what on December 31st of this year would make you shout, “This has been an incredible  year?” Jot down 5-7 things that would light you up and excite you to experience, build, or achieve.  
  2. Once you do this, your next step is to narrow your focus. Circle 3 of those that are the most significant. Once you get your top three, highlight the ONE that you know is calling you and cannot wait.  This is it.  Your #1 goal.  It’s the goal that excites and inspires you to show up as a greater version of who you are today. 
  3. Know who becomes better off when you achieve your goal. Why does achieving your great goal matter? What is the cost and who is hurt when you don’t achieve your goal? Why is it so important? When you understand the impact of your one great goal, it’s going to help you move towards your goal when difficult moments arise.  Knowing your ‘why’ becomes your fuel in the inevitable tough times. 

That’s it. Once you do this you will have done more than 98% of the world will do this year when it comes to setting goals. 

BONUS: To get yourself going, write down the next 5 to 7 action steps you will take to achieve it.

By following these three simple steps, you’ll be able to sharpen your vision, focus on what’s important, and take action that will lead you closer to your fabulous year. 

Stay tuned for the next episode of this series where you will dismantle the hardest part of starting and following through on the best and most satisfying year of your life… learning how to identify and overcome the mental blocks. 

These are the things that keep well-meaning high-contributors stuck working too many hours and not enjoying the freedom in their lifestyle that they want. You’re here to achieve great things and live a full and vibrant life.  Let’s make sure that happens this year!

In this episode I share:

  • Part 1 of my 3-part series to help you get the focus so that you have the freedom to achieve your best and most satisfying work and vibrant life this year
  • 2 key reasons that make setting our goals difficult and how to get relief immediately 
  • 3 simple steps to take to sharpen your vision, get focused, and take action
  •  The right order and approach to narrow down what you REALLY want


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About Rita Hyland

With over 20 years of experience as an executive and leadership coach, Rita helps leaders — emerging and established — excel in corporate and entrepreneurial environments.

Rita believes if leaders were more clear about how transformation really works and more intentional about creating what they want, their impact, success, and influence in the world would be unstoppable.

Through her coaching programs, private coaching, and masterminds, Rita shows leaders how to win consistently and create the impact and legacy they desire.

Central to Rita’s work is the understanding that you will never outperform your current programming, no matter how strong your willpower.

When you learn to use Rita’s proprietary Neuroleadership Growth Code, a technology that uses the best of neuroscience and transformational psychology to hit the brain’s buttons for change, YOU become both the solution and the strategy.

Her mission is to end talented, hard-working, and self-aware leaders spending another day stuck in self-doubt or confusion and not contributing their brilliant work and talent the world so desperately needs.

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