It’s Time To Change the Way You See Things

I walked into my house after nine months away. The familiar walls welcomed me like an old friend.

As I unpacked my things—and those of my two college daughters who had just returned—I started seeing things I hadn’t noticed before.

Way too many clothes jammed into that closet.
A plant blocking the light in the corner.
A backyard that needs some love.
Even driving around town, I caught myself smiling at things I’d never paid attention to.

The house hadn’t changed. But I had.

My perspective had shifted—and with it, my ability to see what I’d been too busy to question.

It wasn’t just the physical stuff. I noticed responsibilities I’d taken on that didn’t serve me anymore. Maybe they never did.

Living away for nine months—supporting my son’s journey—gave me a gift I didn’t know I needed: a different perspective.

We all know perspective shapes our lives. Like when a doctor tells two patients with the same disease that they have six months to live. One goes home to prepare to die. The other says, “No way. I’ve got grandkids to watch grow up.” One passes away shortly after. The other thrives for several more years.

Same situation. Different perspective. Different outcome.

How we look at a situation determines how we respond.
How we respond shapes our results.​
​Our perspective, therefore, shapes our destiny.

You’d think we’d be experts at expanding our perspective, right?
But the truth is… we’re not.

Here’s why.

It’s easy to forget that our perspective is just that—a perspective, not a fact. We get stuck seeing the world the same way every day. We look for evidence that confirms what we already believe—rather than challenging it.

It’s like being a fish in a fishbowl. The fish doesn’t even know it’s in water because it’s always been there.

For over two decades, I’ve helped men and women revolutionize their lives and leadership—so they can increase their happiness, impact, productivity, and bottom lines.

And here’s the secret sauce: every transformation starts with a change in the way we see things.

When we change the way we see things—the things we see change.

Even the tiniest shift can be revolutionary. Like a golfer who changes their grip by just a centimeter—and suddenly the ball goes in a completely different direction.

My time away reminded me: I must never stop seeking fresh perspectives—even when life feels good.

This fall, in my new hybrid coaching program, The Inner Game Advantage, we’ll use perspective shifts to reset, amplify your happiness, and increase your influence.

But you don’t have to wait until then. Here’s your summer homework:

Ask yourself these questions:
👉 Where am I stuck in the same patterns, just because that’s the way I’ve always done it?
👉 What am I not seeing that’s holding me—or others—back?
👉 What’s another perspective (or seven) that could change everything?

Summer is the perfect time to explore new perspectives. Its slower pace and longer days invite us to pause, reflect, try something new, and play.

Maybe it’s a weekend getaway to somewhere you’ve never been.
Or reading a book you’d normally skip.
Or having coffee with someone who challenges your thinking.

Even a simple walk—without your phone—or an evening journaling in the backyard can unlock new insights. When we give ourselves space to see things differently, we discover possibilities we never knew existed.

Life becomes better than we imagined.

This fall, I’ll be trekking the Inca Trail to Machu Picchu—a trip I’ve dreamed about for years. With how much perspective has expanded for me lately, I can’t wait to see the world from yet another vantage point. Stay tuned. I promise to share the perspectives I find with you.

In the meantime, here’s to seeing your world—and your leadership—with fresh eyes.

All my best,
~Rita

P.S. Curious how seeing things differently could revolutionize your life, leadership, and productivity? Let’s chat, and we’ll schedule a Connection Call. Let’s explore what’s possible with a fresh perspective—and a coach in your corner.