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There is a big mistake that a lot of generous and well-intended individuals often make for the sake of showing they care. That mistake is self-sacrificing. They take care of others before taking care of their own needs. Why do people do this to themselves? If you find yourself engaged in self-sacrifice, it’s really not your fault. Society teaches us to be selfless, not selfish. Before you know it, it’s a cycle that you are struggling to get out of. 

You may overextend yourself because you believe it’s helping those around you. The truth is when you self-sacrifice, you are actually self-sabotaging. Sacrificing yourself in the name of leadership isn’t kind, it’s selfish. If you’re feeling frustrated because you’re giving too much, that’s not your boss’ fault, or your partner’s fault, or your kid’s fault. Here’s the bottom line: self-sacrifice is a choice. This episode will explain how self-sacrifice holds well-intentioned and great leaders back, and what to do about it so you can show up as the full version of yourself.

In this episode, I share:

• Why self-sacrifice is ACTUALLY selfish
• How to identify (even the subtle ways) you are self-sacrificing
• What to do when you realize you’re overextending 
• A critical question to stop the cycle of overgiving that is costing you
• 5 steps you need to stop self-sacrifice before it gets out of control

Resources: 

• Check out last week’s episode, How to Reset and Why Rational is Overrated
• Connect with Rita on Instagram @rita_hyland_coaching
• Interested in working with Rita? Send an email to [email protected]

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About Rita Hyland

With over 20 years of experience as an executive and leadership coach, Rita helps leaders — emerging and established — excel in corporate and entrepreneurial environments.

Rita believes if leaders were more clear about how transformation really works and more intentional about creating what they want, their impact, success, and influence in the world would be unstoppable.

Through her coaching programs, private coaching, and masterminds, Rita shows leaders how to win consistently and create the impact and legacy they desire.

Central to Rita’s work is the understanding that you will never outperform your current programming, no matter how strong your willpower.

When you learn to use Rita’s proprietary Neuroleadership Growth Code, a technology which uses the best of neuroscience and transformational psychology to hit the brain’s buttons for change, YOU become both the solution and the strategy.

Her mission is to end talented, hard-working, and self-aware leaders spending another day stuck in self-doubt or confusion and not contributing their brilliant work and talent the world so desperately needs.