The Year-End Review And The Epidemic of Not Celebrating

Listen to the full podcast episode to learn about the science-backed practice that has not only changed my life but also the lives of countless people over the last two decades. This is something you can’t ignore if you want to achieve that great goal you identified for this year and write your new future.

There’s something quietly devastating that happens to high performers at the end of every year. We finish one sprint and immediately start planning the next. We accomplish something meaningful and shrug it off because it “should have happened sooner.”

We’re so focused on what’s ahead that we never let what’s behind us actually land. 

And here’s what makes this particularly costly: we’re discarding the very evidence that could accelerate everything we want in the year ahead. 

We’re ignoring a proven track record of success that’s completely personal to us. 

We’re bypassing the most powerful strategy session we could ever have, and it only takes 10 minutes.

That’s what I want to share with you today. It’s called the Year-End Review exercise, and I’ve been using it personally for more than a decade. It’s been responsible for continued growth in my business, my relationships, my revenue, and my health. It’s helped me simplify my days while increasing performance. And it’s done the same for the leaders and teams who’ve used it to elevate their results and strengthen their decision-making as they move into the year ahead.

But before we get to the four simple steps, I need to name something I’ve been witnessing, especially recently, with the 12 leaders I’m working with in the Inner Game Advantage program. Something that’s showing up in conversations with friends, colleagues, and clients across the board.

We have an epidemic of not celebrating our wins.

The Neuroscience of Why Celebration Matters 

We talk about success leaving clues, but the real problem is that most of us aren’t stopping long enough to notice them. We finish a big project and immediately start planning the next one. We navigate a tough, admirable conversation, and we shrug it off. We accomplish something meaningful, even exceed our goals, and then we move the goalpost.

These are real examples I watch day after day. Someone increases their revenue or hits the promotion they’ve been wanting, but they dismiss it because “it should have happened a long time ago.” 

This has become so normalized that we don’t even realize what we’re missing.

From a neuroscience and high-performance perspective, celebration isn’t self-indulgent. It’s not ego-based. It’s not selfish. Celebration is actually how your brain programs the message: this worked. Do more of this. You deserve this. You are worthy. Bring it on.

When you don’t celebrate your wins, they never integrate into your identity of who you’re becoming. And we know that identity is the basis for how we think, which influences how we feel, which in turn influences how we behave, which gives us our results.

So at the baseline, if you’re never pausing to celebrate and recognize your wins, your system never registers that you’re someone who follows through. That you’re someone who is worthy. That you’re the kind of person who creates results, who shows courage, who continually grows.

Without that shift of pausing, acknowledging, and celebrating, we won’t be given more things to celebrate. It’s absolute science. It’s not philosophy; it’s physics. What we focus on expands. Where our attention is, our energy follows and we get more of that.

The biggest problem with not celebrating what happened and who you became in 2025 is that there’s no way your January goals will stick. 

You haven’t acknowledged what you’ve built your foundation on.

That’s why this year-end review is so powerful. It’s not just reflection, but it’s actual rewiring. 

Why Reflection Reveals Your Personal Success Formula

We often believe that new breakthroughs require new strategies. But the last 12 months contain so much of what you need to create your next level.

The type of reflection I’m talking about helps you amplify what already works. It helps you adjust what doesn’t. It helps you identify patterns that are driving your results, and you don’t need major consultants or long, difficult strategy sessions to find them.

This exercise will help you build momentum before the year ends or simply move into a new energy, a more optimistic space, which then contributes to your higher performance.

This isn’t about dwelling on the past. It’s about harvesting the wisdom.

The Four-Step Year-End Exercise

This is a gift from me, and it’s available for you to print and complete before you start planning this season.

Here’s how it works:

Step 1: Set Up Your Page

Take an 8.5 x 11 piece of paper and draw a line down the center. On the left, write “Wins.” On the right, write “Misses.”

Step 2: List Your Wins and Misses

Fill in both columns with specific examples. Your wins are anything you’re proud of, anything that moved you forward. Your misses are the patterns that held you back, the moments you wish you’d shown up differently. Be specific. The more detail, the more useful.

Step 3: Identify What Was Responsible

This is where the magic happens. For each win, ask: what was most responsible for this success? Asking for help? Slowing down? Trusting your intuition? Taking imperfect action?

For each miss, ask: what was most responsible for this not working? Over-committing? Avoiding discomfort? Not asking for help? Ignoring your inner cues?

The patterns start to become clear when you do this step.

Step 4: Identify Your Themes—Your Signature Success Formula

Step back and identify the two or three themes that appear across your list. Maybe it’s that when you prioritize your health, everything improves. Maybe it’s that the more fun you have, the better your results. Perhaps it’s that imperfect action gets you further than waiting for perfect conditions.

Make your themes visible. Put them somewhere you’ll see them. These are your non-negotiables for the year ahead. These are your foundations for building your goals and strategies.

Why This Matters More Than Any Planning Session

Some people will open their planners and start putting in annual goals based on last year and on what they think they should have. But those goals could be based on something much more organic, authentic, joy-filled. This is how you create a defining year for yourself.

It’s not going to be about guessing or looking for a new, different, shiny strategy and being confused when things don’t happen. It doesn’t need to be that confusing. It’s not that complex. It’s not that deep, but it is significant.

Sometimes it may seem easier to believe that you’re missing the right strategy. I think it’s easier for us to think, “I just haven’t found it yet.” Because the alternative is to look at ourselves and recognize that there’s something here I’m doing that isn’t in alignment with the direction I’m headed.

I would say 80% of the time, we know and already have the strategy. We just haven’t used it to its full 10x power. But we can change that to get more of what we desire in 2026.

A new year can bring new energy and new momentum. But a new year doesn’t change you. Awareness does. Celebration does. Integration of that celebration does.

Give yourself 10 minutes to do this review. Mine the gold from your own life. Let your wins land. Receive them. Accept them. Celebrate them. Let your patterns reveal themselves. Let your whole identity catch up to who you’ve become.

Then go forth into 2026 with all the clarity and intention that a strong success formula provides—one that’s uniquely, powerfully yours rather than borrowed. One that’s proven instead of hoped for.

In this episode, I share:

• How your wins, big or subtle, reveal the structure of your personal success formula
• Why your misses are often the most accurate map of where your leadership needs support
• The mindset and performance habits that quietly influence your capacity and energy
• How to identify the patterns that shape your decisions, relationships, and outcomes
• Why end-of-year planning for leaders works better when it begins with awareness, not ambition
• How a simple year-end performance review can spark meaningful identity shifts for success
• What it looks like to enter a new year with grounded clarity instead of urgency

Resources and related episodes:

• Grab The Year-End Review Exercise
• Tune in to the previous episode, My Seven Learned Leadership Lessons From the Inca Trail
• Listen to Four Simple Steps to Reset Your Goals Based on Your Ultimate Future
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• Learn more about the Inside Out Method
• Connect with Rita on LinkedIn

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About Rita Hyland

With over 20 years of experience as an executive and leadership coach, Rita helps leaders — emerging and established — excel in corporate and entrepreneurial environments.

Rita believes if leaders were more clear about how transformation really works and more intentional about creating what they want, their impact, success, and influence in the world would be unstoppable.

Through her coaching programs, private coaching, and masterminds, Rita shows leaders how to win consistently and create the impact and legacy they desire.

Central to Rita’s work is the understanding that you will never outperform your current programming, no matter how strong your willpower.

When you learn to use Rita’s proprietary Inside Out Method, a technology that uses the best of neuroscience and transformational psychology to hit the brain’s buttons for change, YOU become both the solution and the strategy.

Her mission is to end talented, hard-working, and self-aware leaders spending another day stuck in self-doubt or confusion and not contributing their brilliant work and talent the world so desperately needs.