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143: Slowing It Down to Keep Yourself Resourceful

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Patience In the Middle Places

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The truth. I’ve struggled with my relationship with patience my whole life. I believed that if something should or could be done, then why not right now?

The faster the better.

For example, recently when the temperatures dropped to sub-zero in the Midwest, the door to my car’s gas tank froze shut. I wasn’t going anywhere. There was gas in the tank. I had access to several other cars available in the driveway. But I wanted it fixed.

Right at that moment.

With that mindset, I went at it until I ripped the metal door right off the gas tank. Had I had patience, I would have waited for the temperature to rise the predicted 30 degrees that it did the next day. Surely, both my car and I would have been better off.

As I walked into my parent’s house holding the part of my car I’d ripped off, I asked myself, what just happened?

What I observed is how uncomfortable I am waiting in the middle place. That time in between when things aren’t fixed, or finished, or my ambitions that I’m so passionate about are not actualized. It’s the space in the middle that causes me unrest.

In those middle places, I find I am thinking about all of the things that need to happen and get done right now. I have places to go, and people to meet. I have aspirations calling my name that I want to realize. Maybe you feel this too.

I was led to believe by society that success was a product of going fast. Slowing down was for people who didn’t have anything to do or who had completed everything they wanted already.

Viewing life in this way, it’s easy to see why I’ve moved fast and had a chilly relationship with patience.

I’ve spent a lot of time hustling with the belief that it will allow me to slow down at some point. I rush now so I can move slowly in my ideal future life.

I believe we need to seek the balance between hustling to make things happen right now and embracing the place in between. It’s in this middle place that I know I gain clarity, grow myself, and have more real moments in my parenting, marriage, and work.

I know we all think we have someplace fast we have to go at this moment, but do we really?

If you’ve told yourself the story that you’ve got to go faster or you have to get this done at this moment, have you ever stopped to ask yourself, is it true?

What would be better in your life if you slowed down? If you didn’t buy into the story that ‘it’ needs to happen right now would your relationships, your marriage, your parenting, your work, or leadership be better off? What would happen if you weren’t constantly going so fast?

Once you’ve answered these questions, you might ask yourself: When is a good time to slow down? What is worth slowing down for? I asked myself these questions the day I observed how I resisted the middle place.

Sometimes being patient can feel like we’re giving up on our ambitions. It’s not.

Being patient doesn’t mean surrendering our ambitions. It means surrendering how they happen.

It’s far easier to be patient when you believe the Universe has a plan far greater than your own. Not everything is best when imposed with our timetable.

When we believe this, we trust. We slow down and we create the space to allow the universe (and others) to support us.

That ambition of yours that’s banging on your door, it’s coming. In the meantime, slow down, get comfortable, and embrace the space in between. It’s the good part.

In your corner,

~Rita

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How To Boost Your Patience, Energy, and Progress So You Do the Best Work Of Your Career

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Listen to the full podcast episode to learn how to boost your patience, joy, and purpose-driven work so that you bring your masterpiece to life. By using this strategy, you will truly help a whole lot more people as you do the best work of your career.

Recently I was speaking to a client named Tom. Tom is a goal-oriented, productivity-minded, high-achiever who continuously strives to improve his productivity and efficiency. Yet when it came time for Tom to be promoted, he was passed over.  

When I first met Tom he was frustrated, to say the least. Tom had been successfully leading a team and couldn’t understand what exactly was holding him back. So, he wanted to work with me to figure it out and be able to accomplish and impact even more.

As I listened, I could tell he was a top-talent employee, but something was missing and it wasn’t a lack of stress and frustration. He wasn’t reaching his goal as partner fast enough and was frustrated that people who were, frankly, not as intelligent as he had passed him by.  

I asked Tom some questions to explore what his relationships and interactions with others looked like.  I noticed they seemed more like transactions than interactions.  It was clear that Tom’s attention was focused on accomplishing and achieving  – the faster the better — and then getting the next thing accomplished.  

We all do this at some point.

It’s easy to get caught up in the busyness of our daily work and life. People are expecting things from us, we have responsibilities, we feel like we are in a race against the clock, and the days and weeks just become a blur. Our life’s focus becomes all about getting it done and how efficient we can be in the process. This is particularly the case for left-brain dominant high-performers (like Tom) who pride themselves on productivity and accomplishment. 

What Tom had forgotten was the mission behind what he was doing. He insisted that all he wanted to do was be able to help more people, but his actions reflected something different. 

He began to notice how his loss of patience and his approach to work was negatively impacting his reaching the next level. He had been over-valuing what he accomplished and under-valuing who he was “being” as he did it. 

I presented the opportunity for a much simpler solution. I asked Tom to consider setting a very deliberate new intention for his day-to-day interactions that would take him in a new direction.  

Here is the approach I asked Tom to consider: be on a mission to bring joy and serve one person at a time, one interaction at a time, one day at a time.  

Too often our intentions in this goal-driven society are to “get it done.” Our days become purely transactional until we notice we are exhausted, frustrated, and unfulfilled.  Perhaps the worst part is that the experience is anything but joyful, and the stressed-out state limits the creativity you need to build your masterpiece!

So, again here is the approach that will elevate your patience, your energy, and your productivity: be on a mission to bring joy and serve every single day. 

When you understand your mission and deliberately set an intention to bring joy and serve each person in each moment, you will build your masterpiece and impact a whole lot of people!  You won’t have to race to accomplish it either! As you know, masterpieces take time. When we begin one person at a time, one interaction at a time, that impact will ripple out and you will succeed at your work and life’s greatest mission.

 

THIS WEEK’S CHALLENGE

Set your intention for the next two weeks to truly help others moment to moment in each interaction you are in. Whether that’s checking out at the grocery store, sitting down to write your next email, or interacting with an upset customer or colleague, bring joy and serve. That is the purpose of life and the reason you are here.

 

Tune into this episode of Playing Full Out to reassess the mission you’re truly operating from and set the intention that will change everything and get you closer to your masterpiece with ease and joy. 

 

In this episode I share:

    •  A simple game-changing approach that will boost your patience and energy especially when things don’t seem to be moving fast enough 
    • An easy way to know if your interactions with others are more like transactions and how to change that
    • What many high-performers forget about their work and a brain-based tool to use so that you don’t
    • The #1 thing  those who create great things and impact a whole lot of people always have in the front of their mind 
    • The story of a top-talent client, Tom, who even though he was ‘getting it all done’ and ‘doing it all right,’ still wasn’t making the progress he wanted and how he changed that.  

Resources and related episodes:

  • Tune into the previous episode, Unleashing the Power of Fun (plus my 4-Part Sensational Summer Blueprint)
  • Episode 97. Embracing Fear Without Being Flattened By It
  • If you’d like to be notified of when new podcast episodes are released, you can do so here: Playing Full Out
  • Learn more about the Inside Out Method
  • Connect with Rita on LinkedIn. 

 

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About Rita Hyland

With over 20 years of experience as an executive and leadership coach, Rita helps leaders — emerging and established — excel in corporate and entrepreneurial environments.

Rita believes if leaders were more clear about how transformation really works and more intentional about creating what they want, their impact, success, and influence in the world would be unstoppable.

Through her coaching programs, private coaching, and masterminds, Rita shows leaders how to win consistently and create the impact and legacy they desire.

Central to Rita’s work is the understanding that you will never outperform your current programming, no matter how strong your willpower.

When you learn to use Rita’s proprietary Neuroleadership Growth Code, a technology which uses the best of neuroscience and transformational psychology to hit the brain’s buttons for change, YOU become both the solution and the strategy.

Her mission is to end talented, hard-working, and self-aware leaders spending another day stuck in self-doubt or confusion and not contributing their brilliant work and talent the world so desperately needs.

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