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Archive for August, 2011

The Secret the Hurricane Survivors, Richard Branson & Steve Jobs’ Really ‘Know’

Wednesday, August 31st, 2011

Over these last two weeks I’ve been taken by the statements of survivors of the earthquake and hurricane, Richard Branson after the destruction of his palatial Necker Island home, and even Steve Jobs.

Their message is common and simple but seems to have gained more credibility in light of their latest experiences. Their message: Love your lovers (or those who matter most to you) and love your life–today.

Steve Jobs explains once your life has been threatened, death is “no longer merely a useful, but purely intellectual concept.”

Those who’ve experienced such tribulations really get it. Perhaps then, in a way, they are lucky.

I got to thinking, without having to experience my own life-threatening experience, do I “get it?” Does my life reflect that indeed now is the time do what I love full out, courageously, and as my heart and intution guide? Does yours?

One way to know is to ask the question: If today was my last day, is this how I would want to spend it? What if my last day was yesterday? Or tomorrow?

Steve Jobs says when he answers “no” to this question for too many days, he knows it’s time for a change.

What I know for certain from the masters of the ages, from the wisdom of the survivors of the last two weeks as well as from the experiences of my own unfulfilled, boring and frustrating days (oh yes, I’ve had a few):

You must love what you do daily. Never stop looking for it. Never settle. Then live it. And never stop.

Watch this thought-provoking and inspiring message of Steve Jobs in his 2005 commencement address at Stanford. Then read on.

Are you ready to re-commit to pursuing the life you love today? A life that goes way beyond, “ok” or “fine.”

None of us know when we will die. It is certain that we will. If you don’t love your ‘today’ when are you going to make sure you do?

If your passionate about doing what you love daily, I’ve got the perfect thing cooking for you.

I’ve got a FREE Webinar for you in September: “The Game Changer: Reinventing Your Life in the Next Six Months.” Keep you eyes out. I’ll be sending you the details next week!

Until then enjoy loads of love and passion!

The 3-Minute Map-Making Tool To Clear Direction And Greater Ease

Tuesday, August 16th, 2011

Do you have a map to create your hot marriage, career change, more profitable business, fit tummy, healthy family, or increased well-being?

We all need maps to get from where we are to where we want to be. You wouldn’t start driving to Idaho without one. Why then would you consider being without a map for your more significant desired outcomes and dreams?

After all, if you had a map, confusion, indecision and frustration would no longer pepper your day. Overwhelm would be virtually eliminated.

Overwhelm occurs because we don’t have one clear focus.

A map, like the one my clients and I have used and that I give you below, provide that focus you need to take clear action. In turn, your life moves from struggle to ease.

This quick hot tool can be used for any goal you set. I used it for the first time over 12 years ago when I decided I wanted to get married. Today I use it for creating a thriving home with my husband and three children and for building my clients businesses and lives.

Here’s what you do.

1. Take a sheet of 8 ½ x 11” paper. Turn it on its side.
2. Draw a vertical line one inch from the left side of the paper. Draw a second vertical line one inch from the right side of the paper. These are the banks of your river.
3. Draw a stick figure on the left river bank and under it write “me.”
4. On the right river bank write your goal, that is, what you want when you make it to the other side. The river is the area between the two banks.
5. Fill the river with rocks designated by circles. In each circle write an action to help you get to the other side.

For example, in my first map I created years ago when I wanted to create a relationship the rocks included: make eye contact, be open to men that do not fit my current profile, change my career to one I enjoy, take a trip, get a coach, change my routine daily, ask a guy to a concert, etc.

Each time I completed one task, I simply went back to look at my next. Oh yes, you have to act! But taking action is easier when you have that next step right before you.

I attribute this tool and other game-changing perspectives to me being engaged to my soul mate 18-months later. You can see why I have passion for having a map!

Here are a few rules to remember in creating your map.

1. The map does not need and should not be in order.
2. You can always go back to add other rocks or action steps. In fact, I encourage it.
3. Consider filling in the rocks like a brainstorming exercise, not a precise prescription. (You will need to use your inner voice to guide you along the way too.)

You’ve heard me say it before: HOPE IS NOT A STRATEGY! Focus and consistent action are. Having a map keeps you focused on both!