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Archive for February, 2011

4 Deadly Pitfalls to Avoid & How To Make Stalling F-O-R-E-V-E-R Obsolete

Wednesday, February 23rd, 2011

Have you had this happen lately? You’re thinking of a great idea you want to move on, in fact, you’ve been thinking and talking about it a LOT lately. You’ve even penned it on your other “great-ideas-I’ll-get-to-one-day-list,” but now it sits as just part of the list?

This idea you’re stalling on may not be the world’s next greatest invention (or it could be).

Perhaps you simply want to get additional support in your business or at home, fix up your office for a better working environment, join a program, learn how to market, set up better systems, or finally budget and invest your money.

Below are the four deadliest pitfalls, smart entrepreneurs, business owners and other great ‘idea-generators’ make and how to overcome them F-O-R-E-V-E-R!

Pitfall No 1: Being a non-starter.
Many would-be successful ideas never get out of the gate. Instead owners of great ideas stand on the side-lines. If you haven’t created your plan to take action towards your idea yet, start.

Lean into it. Identify one small step to take in the next 24 hours.
Wait, this is big: schedule your next action step on your calendar.

Pitfall No 2: Waiting Until …
The second mistake is intending to start, but waiting too long. Too many of us put off investing in our idea or dream with a perpetual series of ‘untils.’ Until we get older, until we are more financially stable, until we’re more confident or more certain. You get my drift.

Bottom line: STOP WAITING for
• Permission
• To feel confident
• The right time
• The moment you feel ready

Stop waiting until know you what you want. Get moving. Get moving and you’ll get clarity.

Mistake No 3: Fearing failure.
A third mistake is being scared of failing. Let’s get real. You’re going to make mistakes. No uber-successful person hasn’t. Know ahead of time that you’re going to mess up a few times along the way. Don’t let the fear of failure stop you.

Everyone will make mistakes. Instead of avoiding the uncomfortable “fear factor” feeling, they do something the stuck and frustrated don’t do. They get comfortable with the uncomfortable feelings, and do it anyway! “Just do it,” is their theme. Try it.

Mistake No 4: Expecting to Get “There” Quick
Most successful entrepreneurs, investors, executives, experts did not get there overnight. They worked diligently, steadfastly and when asked directly took a lot of small steps to equal the sum of the whole.

Ask yourself if you have the temperament to remain steadfast to your idea. Do you? Even when you’re not affirmed, you make a mistake or you’re frustrated?

Be patient and remember: it’s the boring day-in-day-out weeding, tilling and caring of the garden that produces a successful harvest.

Be honest with yourself. Now that you know these four pitfalls, which are you making that’s stopping you from advancing that idea of yours?

Choose right now to overcome it. You know exactly what to do to get ANYTHING you want.

Ciao for now,
Rita

The #1 Step in The Fool-Proof Process To Getting What You Want + Will Smith Video

Saturday, February 5th, 2011

We all do it at times. We make our own choices for what we want based on a current reality, that is, the natural “next level,” OR in response to what is being offered to us.

We manipulate what we REALLY want into what we think we can get instead.

As a result, we skip the #1 step in the fool-proof process to getting anything we want– CHOOSE.

I’ll give you an example. A client is being sought after to fill a new position in the organization. When asked, “What do you want?” he states, “I’m going to see what they offer me and go from there.”

This waiting to choose based on logic or what others decide almost always guarantees you will limit who you become and what you receive!

See all kinds of cool things happen when you choose what you want based on your deepest desires. First, when you CHOOSE (regardless of what the current reality rationally dictates) you begin to show up in the world in a way that attracts what you want. You commit. And like a thoroughbred with blinders you pursue your target.

Second, the universe or God or nature, whatever you want to call it, conspires to support you. I see it all of the time in my own life and in the lives of my clients. You get started and the universe shows up to bring situations together to support you.

So here’s the point I want to make: don’t wait to choose what you REALLY want based on…

What the company decides
What the neighbors prefer
What seems logical or rationale
What you think you can have
Or what is being offered

YOU DECIDE.

Bottom line: Whether you’re in the corporate world, an entrepreneur, or a full-time mom, your first step in getting what you really want is to choose it. You can create whatever you choose to be!

What the client above really wanted was the opportunity to have a global role within the company, with a limited amount of travel (sounds crazy, I know), with a salary 35% higher than a similar position had been paid previously and to receive options in the company.

He chose and saw this before it was offered, AND he got it all. But then that’s just the way it works.

You are what you choose to be. No if, ands, or buts!

Answer the question, what do I REALLY want in my business, my relationship, my finances, my life? Really.

Then watch what Will Smith has to say about choosing who you want to be.

And if you like this, send it to a friend!

Lots of love,
Rita

The ‘Irresistably Attractive’ Factor- Do you have it?

Tuesday, February 1st, 2011

Several years ago I learned that everything I thought about being successful and happy was a lie.

I’d spent many of my early years consciously and sometimes unconsciously trying to keep it neat, fix it, organize it, keep it moving, make it look good.

I recognize in hindsight it was to get people to like me.   Once I had ‘manipulated’ them into liking me, I then realized the game wasn’t over.  Now I had to maintain their acceptance and approval. 

I wasn’t as calculated as it might sound.  I didn’t consciously realize I was doing this. Like most of us, I’d picked this way of being up from those around me.  I didn’t challenge it.  It must ‘work,’ I thought.  After all, everybody’s doing it.

After years of this act, I became exhausted from the level of energy it took to keep it up, and I finally gave it up.

I started showing up at a higher level and exposing wherever I was, how I was feeling, and where I was at honestly. I said what I really planned to do with my life.  I was myself.

And I found a funny thing started happening…

While I’d thought  people would stop liking me when I wasn’t trying so hard, instead I found people actually liked me more.  I started connecting to people in ways I had never experienced in my relationships and in business.  And my life –in both areas– took off.

It turns out it’s not only more fulfilling to be unattached to whether or not people like you.  It’s also irresistibly attractive.

Here’s the deal: We all want to be our true selves and connect with others in a meaningful, honest and open way.  Connection and contribution to others are our two highest  needs.

To get these needs met we must be honest with ourselves and others —  not just some of the time, but all of the time.  The good news is we become fulfilled  and irresistibly attractive when we do.

In fact, our business and relationship success relies on our being able to expose ourselves as we are–our preferences, our likes, our dislikes.

Take a look at the following video to see what one researcher found on the topic of vulnerability, success, and happiness, and how to become a magnet of rich relationships, success, and fulfillment.  You’ll be happy you did.

http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

As always, leave a comment if it moves you and please share it with your friends.

Enjoy!

Lots of love,

Rita